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Scapegoating

By Br. McLean Bennett, OFM Cap.

There is something of a cottage industry on social media these days: The posting to the internet of videos of people doing bad or stupid things … and then getting their just deserts.

If I scroll through YouTube, I almost inevitably end up coming across a video titled something like: “Idiot driver crashes into semi.” What’s caught on camera is a video of someone driving too fast or too recklessly, and then slamming into a big truck. Viewers are encouraged to say things like: “Well, he had that coming!”

Or a person might be filmed in the midst of a tense conflict with someone else — sometimes with the person holding the camera — and we’re invited to watch their spectacular, public meltdown. “It’s OK,” we’re supposed to think. “They deserve to be called out and ridiculed!”

It’s easy to turn people into a meme, ridicule their actions and justify our pleasure in our doing so by insisting that it’s all simply a carriage of popular justice.

This isn’t a new phenomenon.

As a friend of mine pointed out to me a few years ago, what goes on in today’s world of social media is simply a modern variation of what we used to call “scapegoating.” We turn our enemies into objects of derision — and tell ourselves that we stand on the side of moral virtue.

Scholars would perhaps point out that this is what’s going on in today’s first reading, which is all about the Assyrians — or the “scoundrels,” as the prophet Nahum calls them.

The Assyrians were hated by just about everyone — and they might have deserved it. They were famously brutal, and had made a lot of enemies, including the Israelites of Nahum’s time.

About a century before he wrote, Assyria had conquered much of Israel, pressing many of Abraham’s descendants into a violent exile.

But by the time of today’s first reading, the Assyrians had fallen to the Babylonians — the Mediterranean world’s newest big empire.

Nahum’s whole purpose in writing was to point out that the Assyrians had finally eaten their humble pie, and that the whole world was taking note.

Today’s first reading seems to take a gleeful bit of pleasure in the Assyrians’ downfall.

There’s a different tone in today’s gospel, in which Jesus prescribes a different way of approaching our relationship to the world — even a world that wanted to crucify him.

“Whoever wishes to come after me must deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me.

“For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.”

There is nothing here about breaking one’s enemies. There is nothing here about humiliating one’s opponent — even if we’re sure our opponent deserves to be humiliated.

To be like Jesus, to follow him and be his disciple, is to carry a cross. And our cross, like Jesus’, is a cross that brings healing not only for us, but also for our enemies.

Praying for those we don’t like might not come naturally or by instinct. It’s easier to lash out and to scapegoat.

At Mass, we pray at the altar that in consuming Jesus’ body and blood, we ourselves might be made an eternal offering to God.

As we walk out of this chapel, the ground beneath our feet might well be thought of as the altar on which we make this offering — the place where we carry our own cross.

We might ask: For whom are we carrying that cross today?

Assumption of the Blessed Virgin Mary

By Br. McLean Bennett, OFM Cap.

I remember the gymnasium in which the ceremony was held. I remember my family visiting, and getting to show them around my college town — and finally getting to try eating at the nicest restaurant downtown. (Without my parents around, I’d never been able to afford it.)

Most of all, I remember this sensation that the hardest thing I’d worked for all my life was finally over. I had completed my 16th year of education. I had jumped through all the academic hoops that life had put in my way, and I was ready to coast through the rest of my life.

Or so I thought.

I had reached what I thought was the apex of my childhood ambitions, but found that life kept unfolding in front of me. I found out that work didn’t get easier with a college degree; it just kept coming.

The history of my life, you might say, didn’t end with what I’d expected would be its most climactic moment. Life had simply changed direction.

It’s taken me a while to find a way to connect my life to the feast that we celebrate this week: the Assumption of Mary.

For a long time, I simply approached this feast with the idea that here was an historical event from the life of Mary — Mary has gone to heaven — and we as a church were simply memorializing it.

In a certain sense, of course, that’s true. This is an important historical event, and we are memorializing it.

But does it have any connection to our lives today?

I suppose we might begin by meditating on what it means that history did not simply come to an end after Jesus’ death on the cross… or after his resurrection… or after his ascension into heaven.

Indeed, these moments were sort of like humanity’s “graduation ceremony” — the things we’d all been waiting for before the time of Christ.

And, yet, for Mary and for each one of us, life since the year 33 A.D. has kept on going. And we’re left to sort out for ourselves what Jesus’ life and ministry and death and resurrection all mean for us.

Mary’s life shows us that the redemption won on Calvary continues to unfold in time — it didn’t happen once and then the story of humanity was finished. Mary had to get to her assumption.

For Mary, whose relationship with her son was so special, hers was a special type of entry into eternal life. We’re called to the same heaven, though; the same eternity with Jesus.

And that means we still have our lives to live, too. Our own finishing lines to arrive at.

At every Mass, we commemorate once again the re-presentation of all that Jesus did for us at Calvary. This, we might say, is a bit like living, once again, our “graduation ceremony.” It’s the most important thing we’ve waited all our lives to experience — and we get to experience it anew every day.

And if we remain faithful to what the Eucharist calls us to, then we, like Mary, will be able someday to enter into eternal life. (Our “last” graduation ceremony.)

“When I found your words, I devoured them.” – Jeremiah 15:16

By Br. McLean Bennett, OFM Cap.

In the Old Testament, we are told about a king of Judah (one of King David’s descendants) who decided to repair and renovate the temple in Jerusalem, which at that time had fallen into some disrepair. In the midst of this renovation, workers stumbled upon the book of the law — a book of the Torah, scripture written by Moses — which had apparently been set aside and forgotten about for many years.

When the king read this re-discovered book, he was surprised to learn that his kingdom had been breaking its own laws for a very long time. All of this is what Jeremiah, the prophet, is referring to when he says: “When I found your words, I devoured them.” Jeremiah would have been alive at the time of the book’s re-discovery and the renovation of the temple. And, for him, this was a moment of profound joy.

And so, it is curious that this joy was so complicated. Jeremiah immediately notes that, despite his joy at having found God’s word, he was nevertheless in suffering.

And so, Jeremiah complains to God. He calls himself “a man of strife and contention,” and says that he regrets ever being born. It’s interesting to note that Jeremiah can feel, all at once, great joy in God’s word, and frustration with its consequences.

I suppose that we might be able to relate a little bit to this. Certainly, we have moments of joy in our relationship with God. And we probably relate to the phenomenon of feeling that the joy of being God’s disciple can become a bit sour when our Christian identity introduces some strife and contention in our lives. Living as a Christian requires our experiencing a real and authentic relationship with God. But this is not meant to make life easy.

The grace of a true relationship with God — the grace of true joy — usually comes wrapped in the mundane simplicity of daily life. It comes, usually, in our families, at our dining room tables, in the hours spent working behind the scenes for one’s children, spouses or aging loved ones. It’s a grace that we find working in ourselves when we keep coming back to Mass and back to prayer in the face of whatever challenges we encounter in our Christian lives.

May God bless you!

All the World’s a Chapel

By Br. McLean Bennett, OFM Cap.

During one of my first official years of formation to become a Capuchin, the other friars and I would attend Mass together every day of the week. We always did so in the same large chapel that was at the center of our formation campus.

The chapel’s front doors were quite large (and heavy), and I remember what it was like to walk through them at the end of each Mass.

“I’m walking out onto my altar now,” I’d tell myself as I walked through those doors and onto the concrete sidewalk outside. I liked to imagine that the whole world beneath my feet was now my “altar.”

The Mass I’d just participated in wasn’t really “over,” I’d think to myself; I was now simply living a continuous reprisal of that Mass, with every moment of the rest of the day an opportunity to experience and re-experience eucharist and sacrifice.

The whole world became my chapel, and every square inch of ground beneath me an altar on which I lived and gave up my life.

This idea began to change the way I looked at everything.

The Mass was no longer something I went to, nor was it something that simply lasted for an hour on Sundays, or thirty minutes on weekdays. Every moment of every day could become an occasion for worship, and everything I experienced in life could find some sort of connection to the Mass.

This was a helpful type of spiritual growth for me, but I encountered problems with it. Inevitably, I’d forget during the day about this wonderful idea that I was “on my altar.” The world that I had decided could remind me of God was always distracting me from God.

If I wasn’t careful, I could lose the sense of spiritual balance and bliss that I’d carried out with me after Mass in the chapel.

Encounters with others could become mundane daily interactions with people who needed something from me: My attention, a task or a job to do, an errand to carry out.

Even as I was learning to try bringing the Mass into my everyday life, I was finding that my everyday life kept preventing my doing so.

It wasn’t until I had a conversation about some of this with a spiritual director that I found a way to try overcoming the problem.

“Find God in all the things that distract you from God.” This was the message my spiritual director gave me, and I suspect there is a great deal of truth in it.

We don’t simply stop celebrating or attending Mass when we walk out of these doors. If we have encountered Jesus in the Eucharist, we can trust that he’ll go with us as we head off into our distracting daily routines.

And if Jesus the Eucharist is with us throughout our day, then every moment of every day can become an occasion to render a simple “thanksgiving” to God (this is exactly what the word “Eucharist” means, after all).

This remains true even if we find ourselves distracted from the sorts of spiritual thoughts that we might wish could stay with us throughout the day.

If a spouse, a child, a boss or co-worker, a neighbor or even a stranger demands of us an attention we’d have rather given to God, we can still find ourselves offering that attention to God, even if our attention seems aimed at the spouse, a child, a boss or a stranger.

Jesus in today’s Gospel is having a conversation with the Pharisees, who were bothered by the fact that Jesus’ disciples were picking grains of wheat and eating them on the Sabbath.

Jesus’ response was straight from the prophet Hosea: God prefers mercy over sacrifice. In a way, the merciful acts we show to others — the bits of our attention we pay to those who demand it of us, even when we’d rather not — become acts of sacrifice.

The moments we say a simple “thank you” to God during the course of the day — and we should be able to say “thank you” even in the midst of anything — become little echoes of the Eucharist we are about to share together this morning.

Let us be merciful to everyone outside these doors, and let us allow that mercy to become an extension of the sacrifice in which we now participate.

Morning of Reflection: “Rather Ordinary Saints”

Saints are often viewed as extraordinary people of unattainable holiness. We often grieve our inability to match their devotion to God. We put them on pedestals and marvel at their holiness from afar. As a result, we convince ourselves that their holiness and their intimacy with God are well out of range of our meager reach. Spoiler alert! The saints of the Church usually came from very ordinary backgrounds, not unlike ourselves. Their lives were often rooted in the drab, dull, drudgery of life. During this session, we will study the lives of a few saints and learn how their ordinariness gave birth to their holiness.

Schedule for the day

– Optional Mass at 8 am

– Optional Confessions at 8.30 am

– Registration at 9 am

– Reflections at 9.15 am

– Lunch at noon

Suggested Donation $ 40 includes

– Continental breakfast

– Coffee & Tea

– 2 preached Reflections

– Lunch

Día de Reflexión

El 16 de diciembre los capuchinos franciscanos les invitamos a ustedes participar en un día de reflexión para profundizarse en la fe. Ofrecerémos este evento en español en nuestra casa de retiro: Capuchin Retreat Center en Washington, MI.

Es posible que nos sintamos abandonados o alejados de Dios a causa de nuestras luchas y debilidades. La presencia de Jesús a través de la Encarnación nos recuerda que Dios está con nosotros, como el nombre Emmanuel.

Este tiempo de Adviento nos llama a recordar la esperanza y la alegría que hemos recibido de nuestro Señor a través de Jesucristo. Únete a nosotros en un día de alabanza, oración y charlas sobre la esperanza que reside en cada uno de nosotros.

Hermano Capuchino José Vera y Diácano Vicente Haro (Arquidiócesis de Chicago) presentarán el tema “Despertar La Esperanza.”

Libre de costo. Se aceptarán donativos.  Ofrecerán cuidado y actividades de niño.

Si estas interesado o tienes más preguntas, por favór manda un correo electrónico a Pbro. Vito Martinez, el Director de la casa de retiro: [email protected].

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On March 16, Capuchin Retreat will be hosting a Day of Reflection that will be presented entirely in Spanish! This event will be held at our Capuchin Retreat Center in Washington, MI.

The cost is free. Donations will be accepted. If you are interested in joining, please contact our host, Fr. Vito Martinez, the director of Capuchin Retreat Center: [email protected].

Morning of Reflection: “On the Road to Emmaus: Walking with Difficult People”

Inspired by Jesus on the Road to Emmaus in Luke’s Gospel, we will learn how to walk with individuals who might be difficult to deal with due to their challenges in life. Br. Fred will teach us the “Educate, Presence, and Stigma-Free” model of accompanying people who might be suffering emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

Preacher: Br. Fred Cabras OFM Cap. LCSW.

Schedule for the day:

Optional Mass at 8 am

Optional Confessions at 8.30 am

Registration at 9 am

Reflections at 9.15 am

Lunch at noon

 

Suggested Donation $ 40 includes

Continental breakfast

Coffee & Tea

2 preached Reflections

Lunch

Blessed are the Grandparents – Morning of Reflection

Dear Friends in Christ,

Please join us & reflect on the blessed vocation of being a [great] grandparent. Reflections will be based on the Sacred Scripture and the messages of Pope Francis to the grandparents. We invite you to take advantage of this opportunity for spiritual renewal.

Preacher: Br. Julius Milton OFM Cap.

Schedule for the day

  • Optional Mass at 8 am
  • Optional Confessions at 8.30 am
  • Registration at 9 am
  • Reflections at 9.15 am
  • Lunch at noon

The suggested Donation $ 40 includes the following:

  • Continental breakfast
  • Coffee & Tea
  • 2 preached Reflections
  • Lunch

Thanks much!

Prayers and blessings,

Capuchin Friars and staff

Capuchin Retreat Center

Día de Reflexión

El 16 de Marzo los capuchinos franciscanos les invitamos a ustedes participar en un día de reflexión para profundizarse en la fe. Ofrecerémos este evento en español en nuestra casa de retiro: Capuchin Retreat Center en Washington, MI.

Si estas interesado o tienes más preguntas, por favór manda un correo electrónico a Pbro. Vito Martinez, el Director de la casa de retiro: [email protected].

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On March 16, Capuchin Retreat will be hosting a Day of Reflection that will be presented entirely in Spanish! This event will be held at our Capuchin Retreat Center in Washington, MI.

The cost is free. Donations will be accepted. If you are interested in joining, please contact our host, Fr. Vito Martinez, the director of Capuchin Retreat Center: [email protected].

Knights of Columbus: Day of Prayer & Reflection

Join us for this Day of reflection. Knights from all districts are welcome, as well as men seeking to grow in their faith.

Theme: Everyday Holiness – The Holy Spirit inspires all Christians to holiness through baptism. Holiness is not only for the saints, for the clergy, or religious. Each of us, through our faith and commitment to Christ, are witnesses of holiness.

Schedule:

9AM: Registration

9:30AM: Welcome and Conference 1

10:30AM: Small Group Discussion with Coffee Break

11:00AM Large Group Discussion & Conference 2

12:00 Noon: Lunch

1:00PM Conference 3

2:00PM Confession and Fellowship

4:00PM Mass (Families are welcome to join)

5:00PM Departure

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